I've never given a damn what white folks thought.
In fact, I've never really given a damn what blacks folks or anyone else thought.
Although I've never used the exact wording, I truly concur with the motto Quincy Jones and Ray Charles lived by: "Not one drop of my self-worth depends on your acceptance of me."
If only Clarence Thomas had learned this early on.
Thomas, the only African American Supreme Court justice, has broken his silence in speaking with the media to promote his book, "My Grandfather's Son." The book is his effort to weigh in on his contentious U.S. Senate confirmation hearing that blew the door off sexual harassment after a former aide, Anita Hill, accused him of just that prior to his appointment.
It was a controversial hearing that left Thomas embittered, and he lays it bare in the 289-page book.
But what caught my attention was his explanation for his absolute hatred today for affirmative action.
I was glad to see him express his view because I have long suspected - and told individuals who know him well - that he endured a traumatic experience that solidified his views.
Thomas says when he applied to Yale University, he had no issue with his race being considered, fearing that it wouldn't hinder him. But upon graduation, he felt the subtle sting as some questioned his grade, and essentially his intellect.
"Now I knew what a law degree from Yale was worth when it bore the tain of racial preference. I was humiliated - and desperate," he wrote.
I've heard the same argument made before, and frankly, that's a self-esteem issue.
No, really. When you truly know your talents, you really don't care if the person across the table makes an assumption based on race. What Thomas seems to forget is that had he NOT gone to Yale, he likely would have never had any of those interviews!
But even before affirmative action, whites would ignore African Americans, judging them as inferior. So did Thomas think that somehow overnight, that was going to change?
As a result, because he was personally humiliated, he has chosen to deny what he was was afforded to others. He got a Yale degree with race being considered, but now he says that's wrong?
I guess what I could do is be suspect of every white person by thinking they got where they are because of white privilege or the legacy of having a father get you into college even though you have suspect grades. President George W. Bush, anyone? He has admitted to the "old man" knocking on a few doors to hook up his son. I wonder what Thomas would say to former President George H.W. Bush about using legacy preference to get him into college? Does Thomas thinks that's bad?
Instead of carrying around a burden, mad because he wanted whites to accept him as being so smart, he should have just gone to a therapist to deal with his issues. But, no! We now have to deal with his drama.
To me, that's sort of like a judge who gets taken to the cleaners by his wife in a divorce, and chooses to penalize every woman that comes into his court. Dude, keep your personal hangs-up outside the courtroom!
What Thomas refuses to acknowledge is that we have all have to deal with whites who questioned our intellect. So what's new? What his grandfather, and my mom and dad made clear is that when you work hard and show you have the skills, you can certainly make it.
And for those who doubted your intellect, then make 'em pay by showing them whose boss.
I guess Thomas's grandfather didn't instill in him how to have a tough enough skin to deal with the haters.
Mine did, and I'm thankful for that.
Question of the Day: Do you agree with Thomas that affirmative action hurts African Americans by forcing others to question their intellect and abilities?